I see this a little differently - we are a part of an aircraft no different than a fuel pump, except in one critical way - the price of a fuel pump is not negotiable. Your price is. Your cost to the operation is variable and management is very good at 'negotiating' the variability in their favour.
Because we are not generally very good at negotiation and better at flying, we have evolved unions to do that task for us. We let them run our lives in a sort of average way and we are happy to get on with the flying. Now we are confronted with a pilot who is a good negotiator and understands all the rules and is somewhat more interested in things not flying-related. She trumps management to 'win' the negotiation.
Really, she is playing the game by all the proper rules - her gender is a red herring.
Why are you lot so sure you have been hurt somehow? Is it because it is 'beyond' the average? I see her victory as an addition to our lives, one more concession/benefit/option that has been won on our behalf.