Hi Angrywife,
I'm in the same position as your Husband. I'm a little older and now getting divorced !!
My "partner" up'd sticks and left for a normal life, whatever that is!
I would ignore all the negative comments and thank the Lord that you are still together.
I'm about start an Instructor rating and have a job to go to when I'm finished. I would advise the other half to think about doing the same but only after a few more months of really pushing himself. I've also found another non-aviation job to supplement the Instructor pay (I'll be working from home), so may be He could do the same (if money is really tight), there's tonnes of Jobs that are pretty flexible. If He does go down the Instructor route before paying out any more I would find the Instructor Job first. I've been told that it makes the training a lot less stressful knowing you've definately got a job.
Considering all my problems, I'm still positive about the future even though my personal life is a shambles
and I live like a peasent
In a few years time you'll both sit back and laugh about the situation.
P.s GOODLUCK!