In fairness skiddy, there is nothing worse than mis-information.
I'm sure that Flybe want to let you know what's happening, but as you said, when it involves peoples lives, they'll want to be sure that they are giving you some concrete info with which to make an informed decision. Until the OFT and various unions have cleared the deal to proceed then nothing can be resolved. It looks like this confirmation will come in mid February, hopefully giving you the info you need.