Was going to stay out of this but ...
Its disgraceful the way people are airing the dirting washing in public about this sensitive topic. Let's wait til the AAIB report is realeased and the facts, details and independent professional opinion can comment on the incident.
L/D ... at no time had anyone else mentioned the sex of either pilot involved. You have now narrowed the F/O down from 180 possibles to about 10 possibles - you may as well have just given the 2 peoples names! Shame on you!