Myway,
I too know several EK09 'middle managers'.
The answers & comments given by Ruseriious & co are on the mark, especially about the pay level & cost of living. You will do well to get above 14/15k.
A few other comments:
On this salary level, you will need another income source to get you any spending or saving money.... most spouse's of this income level HAVE to work as such...
Silicon Oasis, the desert camp, is a group of about 80 villa's, similar in fashion and design to Ranches / Meadows etc. They are brand new, and still not fully occupied, although I think some have been living there now for about 6 months. Key point for you however is that they are Grade 10 & above only. So not for you unless you can sway Accom in some miraculous manner...
The utilities / rental allowance will not get you good enough accomodation on the open rental market in Dubai - you will have to look at Sharjah as option, which is where most the EK subcontinent middle managers live, or even Al Ain, neither attractive for a variety of reasons. Even Mirdiff, the previous 'cheap' spot, is out of your reach unless you look at a small 2 bed place.
If you wish to buy, you will need about 40 or 50% deposit to be allow your allowance to pay your mortgage, or if you have smaller deposit, you will need to top up your mortgage to tune of 2 or 3 k per month minimum.
Schools have become busy again, and waiting lists the norm again, even after several new schools opening. You will have some limited choice, and EK employment is an advantage in some of the schools, but your choice of living location (if any) may (likely) to be in direct conflict with location of school.
The pilots club is known as EPC - now is pilots only as Associate membership has been stopped or capped (not sure which) - but either way, I doubt they will be able to accept you. If they do, it helps someway with some discounts and some beach club entrance, so the annual fee is well worth it.
And just like everyone else in the company, whether pilot, CC, or clerk, secretary or manager, EK will get their pound of flesh from you, no matter how hard you try to play it down the middle.
But Dubai is fun place to live, the weather is great for most of year, despite this weekend's 7's wash-out, and a lot of other positives. The traffic is a nightmare, but you learn to live with it just like any other city or place that has rush hours... the local laws and bureacracies are a minefield...
If it is a good career move, then take it, and manage the finances closely. If it is just for some fun in the sun, then OK too. But if you think you're coming to make some brass for old age, then forget it!
Cheers
ZZZ