Had I been drunk and/or drinking then that, of course, would have been a lefgitimate concern. Indeed had I been, I would not have asked in the first place. My appearance was fine, smart and casual, and I had spoken to the captain who was greeting people on the top of the stairs. He had given his ok and asked me to drop my kit and ask the f/a to show me down. Neither did she forget as she was reminded three times, on on the third occaision made a dismissive tutting sound and gave me the impression she couldn't give a toss about what the captain and I had discussed. My wife being a corporate travel agent, we were given upgrades to business class, and on the flight out to Madrid she had already commented to me that she would never book a client on this airline having seen how badly the pax were being treated, especially those that did not speak Spanish (which she does, almost fluently).
My point in raisning this issue is not to pull down f/s, who have a tough old job at the best of times, but to politely point out that pilots do fly other ailines, even us helicopter pilots and service pilots and to those of us who have a genuine interest in what goes on on the flight deck it is frustrating to say the least when and f/a prevents a fdv that the capt would otherwise, or in this case did, grant if he were just plain asked or informed of the request. More generally the pax pay the fares which keep the airline's in business, and to be treated like an annoyance really angers me, I payed for that flight, and rather wish I hadn't the fdv issue not-withstanding; but that is for a different post.
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Remember: all landings are controlled crashes!