the military will turn its back on you....
Wasnt the case for me albeit in 1990. Blunties do though and they will throw the bluntie book at you without hesitation, but I found the aircrew side of our system particulary good. Asked what did I want and where did I want to go, I didnt have a scooby as you are embroiled in an emotional rather than logical world.
Once I had sorted myself out (several months) PMA were very much on-side for making the best of a bum deal and enabling contact with my children whilst others were fighting the first middle eastern f-up. Life is a little blured from that time which is not surprising as it takes time to adapt to life after an 'immediate' family. Lesson learnt was never again put the queen before those around you, many here may disagree with that, but that is my opinion based upon experience, and I am entitled to that point of view.
PS There is a life afterwards and the pain may end up a blessing in disguise.