Well, tell me how do you decide were to be born and were to be raised, unless you're delivererd from a sperm bank to the place you expected to be ??
You can't decide anything about your origins and the culture you'll receive.
And it's possible to be attached to 2 different countries, whatever you may think.
I hold a dual citizenship, and I would die for both of my countries.
A war between them should happen, I'd be forced to choose a camp according to my values, trying to protect the right one against the one that sees to be wrong to me. It already happened many times during WWII.
Stop talking like binary droids from star wars for god sake ! Life is not black or white.