Pakeha...
First of all, you're obviously a liar. To wit:
I beat my ATC Controller mate in golf all the time!!!
Impossible.
Anyway, I agree with Scott. I'd even guess that the STAR further expands on the fact that this is simply planning information...
But I believe ths supervisor had it right. You're absolutley right about the rules and you were perfectly legal. You also were not completely blameless.