Hang in there Sylphie, its all going to come together for you in a way better than you could have imagined! If you truely feel its in your blood to be flying than that is where you will end up
. And like you said, regarding DJ, JQI may not have been suited to you, but DJ could fit you to a T....looking back when I was flying, I wouldn't have changed it for the world, at the time QantasLink was perfect for me, but now it feels right to give something else a try!
I wish you the best of luck