In fact, Pilgrim, your entire post is mis-informed speculation.
There is no missile, there was no 3-man SAM crew, no RWR warning, no 'oppos under threat' no 'wee small hours'. You're making it up. Presumably, like anyone who has been in the military, you identify with the crew concerned, have been or can imagine yourself being in similar situations and cannot believe that you would act that way, and I'm sure you would not.
Most people would accept that mistakes are made in war. What is really scary is the reluctance to accept, in the face of all evidence to the contrary, the possibility that this crew might have acted so badly.