Expats
That's how the ball bounces guys, especially if you are married to a Malaysian girl. Women have little status here and expats husbands will find it very diifficult or impossible even to get a job.
It's true that Malaysian are very protective and patriotic, maybe because they were colonised for so long. Firstly by the Javanese, Portugese, English, economically by the Chinese and the new world power trying influencing local politics and economy.
So one can understand why they try to best themselves when they can. Accidents and incidents are only the small picture. The bigger picture is national interest, albeit be misplaced at times.
Its also true that Expats use these backwaters, (Malaysia included) as training grounds to get Twin Jet ratings and their hours up, before submitting their resumes to their first world airlines.
Therefore you either put up with the local whingeing or if you cant stand the attitude, then leaving would be an option. They are what they are, leave em' be.