ez,
You remind me of me when I was 15 and I’d like to address some of your points. First off, I believe you need to do a lot of thinking! What exactly do YOU want to do and how are you going to go about it. Factor in other stuff like what your parents think, but your life is yours to do with as you wish. As an RAF cadet you should have access to people and resources to answer many of your questions.
If you have an issue with the whole ‘kill’ thing (like I did) then you really need to sort this out sharpish. It took me about 3 years of soul searching, research, debate and thinking before my mind was clear about it. If you decide to join the RAF then be aware that it is a ‘force’ – you’ll be part of an organization that has in the past, and will in the future, be called upon to fight.
Be under no illusion about fast jets – they are primarily weapons systems designed to kill bad guys and break their things. As a front line fast jet pilot you have to be ready and prepared to kill but you don’t need to want to kill – do you see what I am getting at there?
As far as contacting places like BAe for work experience, don’t bother with e-mail, telephone calls (IMHE) work a LOT better.
All the best,
MT