It is a sad fact of life that most UK, US and Aus cabin crew simply don't seem to understand what good service (as practised by CX, SQ etc) is about at all, as most of you are demonstrating here.
Safety is necessary, but not sufficient to get my business, and the business of everyone else who is making it very hard to get a seat on most CX/SQ routes these days. It is a sad reflection of this that while BA is still laying people off and cutting back, CX is growing as fast as it can recruit (good) people and buy new planes. It will be great to see CX flying across the Atlantic soon.
And just since you seem to have the wrong impression of what I am looking for (in business or first at least) I will point out that I have never been rude to cabin crew (even to those who have been very rude to me), or indeed "clicked my fingers at them". And I don't look down on cabin crew - I understand that it isn't easy trying to make lots of passengers feel that the crew is there just for them - but I do hope and expect that they will do everything reasonable to make my journey a pleasant one. That is what I am paying for. The very best cabin crew are the ones I don't have to ask for anything because they have anticipated my wishes. This happens most of the time on CX in the premium cabins; rarely on BA/QF/AA.