It is a very great shame that the good people are muddied by the shameful but that appears to be the way in all walks of life and professions.
In one company I worked for, I asked a smiling assassin why he was like that and he replied, grinning, " I like people to be afraid of me".
Another time, sim coffee break, joined by other bods but Trainer overheard comments made about a so called 'troublemaker'. He told the other trainers present, "Give him to me; I'll f--k him". Charming, I thought, but stayed schtum as I was having an easy time with a top-class, Arab Trainer.
We. will never be able to avoid this situation where Training Departments are seen by many as an outlet for very odd psychological problems . How these types even got into the profession in the first place was beyond me until I woke up to the 'nudge, nudge, wink wink' brigade. Can't beat them but proud to have stayed clear.