I'd like to know any airline that has a policy which allow the pilot to control the Re-Fuel Panel to get the aircraft fueled up when there is no maintenance guy on site and/or re-fueling personnel is unfamiliar with a particular aircraft.
I've never worked for a company where pilots were prohibited from refueling the aircraft. On the Dash-8 we routinely refueled on our own (granted this was never through a single point, always over-the-wing). On the 737 we're trained how to do it as a component of our aircraft service and ground handling course every year. The closest I've come to doing it myself is in the Caribbean where we have to go down and give the refueler the breakdown per tank, but they always speak far better English than I do Spanish, so it very rarely comes to an issue. But to help us in case we need it, my airline published a Supplementary Normal Procedure in our FOM.