Was there a committe of first officers landing the aircraft..............."they"
I think one of the reasons the whole woke they/them stuff winds people up is because it’s like a marker, or a sign, that the people involved are removed from real work and consequence. We get organisations like Universities and Government departments and sections of large corporations pushing and utilising the they/them type of language and meanwhile, the folks who are on approach at 1am in poor weather trying to teach someone how to safely land an aircraft know that gender pronouns are not as important as a) landing a plane full of people safely and b) writing an accurate and useful report when learnings are to be had.
The ‘workers’ take full responsibility for ‘landing a plane full of people safely’ while the paper pushers wring their hands about pronouns and don’t actually understand what is important. It might even be because they don’t understand what it is like to take responsibility in a high consequence environment that they literally don’t understand what is important. Either way, I think they/them annoys people who do carry real responsibility day in day out whether that be in an aircraft, building a road, or delivering critical services because they see people fretting about something that doesn’t matter when much more important things are being neglected.