Slasher. And Pogie. For the love of humanity. He sounds like a perfectly decent guy who’s been sh@t on. There for the grace of God go a lot of us. He’s trying to do the decent thing and elicit a sensible response here. Probably in the wrong place admittedly.
I sincerely hope you never face this sort of situation; colleagues (and I don’t count you as one ) have topped themselves over less.
Let up.