A couple of things. Firstly, don’t get too despondent. Every single pilot is a member of that club. I’ll can’t possibly tell you what you did wrong because I wasn’t there. But some common problems are flying too fast and not looking in the right place. The former results in the aircraft not wanting to land and the latter in you not perceiving the correct rate of descent. And you can not make an aircraft land; just let it happen. But until it does, keep it under control. Lastly, if you don’t like what is happening, throw it away and try again.
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