Being a Pilots Wife
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Thank you for the website Long Haul, but it is more directed for Americans, and PPRuNe is more UK/Europe/Australia directed, I am still thinking that a forum for wifes and partners is a good idea. If we are having enough support will the management consider a forum for us?
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Yes, I think this is a great idea! <img src="smile.gif" border="0"> Partners, family, friends of all aircrew have to deal with all sorts of things. Would be great if they could talk about it! <img src="smile.gif" border="0"> <img src="smile.gif" border="0">
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Am pro crewpartner-forum, but don't really understand FewClouds need for a password-protection... <img src="confused.gif" border="0"> . .No need to protect the other forums, which could be read by the press etc. or misused by people who are not really pilots. Why couldn't others read and reply about what our partners are dealing with at home?
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I am the wife of Niteflyer. Being a wife of a pilot isn't so bad, infact it's great!!! Of course in every relationship there are pros and cons and sometimes it can be fun depends how you look at it and how you tackle the situations that crop up.. .The pros are when he's away you definitely get to do the things you want to do, you don't have to worry about preparing a huge dinner or washing the dishes, you are in control of the remote, you can plaster on your facial mask freely, you don't have to report to anyone, and calling your babysitter at a moments notice so you can go out with the girls. The cons are when he has left the house thats when you get car trouble, the water pipe has busted, you have to do homework with the kids and the insurance company calls only wanting to know when he'll be back.
When he finally returns after being a day late and rostering never bothered to inform you. His face is all you want to see and you're so glad that everything went smoothly so to speak, thats when you and the kids rush out to greet him at the gate with hugs and kisses.
Oh there's also the other thing I didn't mention that all pilots suffer from "altitude sickness" there is a period of time when they are on the ground for too long they do not function very well in making every day decisions, thats where we come in to make the ultimate balance in pilots lives. By this time you can't wait for them to get back up in the clouds.
In conclusion : I love him to death and I wouldn't trade my life with anyone. . .Cherish every moment.
Mrs. Niteflyer
When he finally returns after being a day late and rostering never bothered to inform you. His face is all you want to see and you're so glad that everything went smoothly so to speak, thats when you and the kids rush out to greet him at the gate with hugs and kisses.
Oh there's also the other thing I didn't mention that all pilots suffer from "altitude sickness" there is a period of time when they are on the ground for too long they do not function very well in making every day decisions, thats where we come in to make the ultimate balance in pilots lives. By this time you can't wait for them to get back up in the clouds.
In conclusion : I love him to death and I wouldn't trade my life with anyone. . .Cherish every moment.
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Yeah, mine is definitely going through a period of "altitude sickness"... can't wait till he gets a job again........ Sometimes I can't put things into perspective and keep focused on the big picture. Incredibly HE can! He's probabily better trained to react against depression. <img src="rolleyes.gif" border="0"> . .Between our bank account and my moods, I don't know what hurts first!. .But when he's back into flying, then it's REALLY great! (Wouldn't have married the guy otherwise!). With my temper, I would have killed a "normal" guy long time ago and I bet I'm not the only one! 
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being a pilot's wife is something i have been for 21 years now, and you do get used to it, to start with it is not very healthy for your bank account, but then when he finds a job it will get better. The lifestyle is great even thought he is away for up to 5 nights. But then he is at home for 5 days as well, you are able to do want you want when he is away, as said before being in control of the remote control is great!!! I think they miss the cockpit when they are at home so therefore they surround themselves with remote controls and the tv is the pretend computer system in the cockpit, the house is nice and tidy when Mr Kloten is away and the washing basket is empty and on his return he presents me with a full washing basket. No really it is not a bad life at all, we have been able to go with him on flights as well and we did stay in very good hotels, we have had Christmas in Hong Kong and we have spent Christmas in Shanghai and it was great. We have also had some time in LA and New York, so there are many good points of being a pilots wife. Obviously this is not how it starts off, you will find that he is in the books for up to years in Mr Kloten's case (he has both fixed wing and rotary licences), then you start with a commuter airline and he will work his way through the various companies until he gets where he is going wherever that might be and then the real fun starts as mentioned above. En o ja ik heb uw man niet gevonden, waar bent u hem verloren, misschien zit ie wel in de boeken, blijf zoeken, hij komt vanzelf wel weer terug.
Opening a pilot's wives forum would be fun.
Mrs Kloten
Opening a pilot's wives forum would be fun.
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Come on now children, don't take yourselves too seriously, it was said and meant in jest, as should be obvious, I would have thought. <img src="smile.gif" border="0"> . .(and suitably ignored by most!).
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It's really great to see at least one thread a year stay on the subject for more than three postings. Pups you started a great one.
I 've tried to get mrs Sq to do some writing but she's too busy. So I'll share it from my side. Being married for more than 22 years (to the very same girl) qualifies me at least a little bit.
When I started in the busines of being away from home the company took my eagerness to fly a bit too serious. They send me away from home for trips of 15 or twenty days to the tropics with a bunch of young good looking girls, usually ending with a night stretch. So when I finally came home I looked well tanned. I had been in or around a swimming pool for hours, had drunk a proper part of a liquor store and relaxed moost of the time I was away. Still after a, usually long, nightflight I was not in the best mood to listen to all the details of the last two weeks.
On the other hand there was Mrs Sq, worked five days a week and run a household with a slowly increasing number of kids (up to three), no time for swimming, beering or enjoyable trips to the usual tourist attractions of the world. She looked forward to the moment that she could share her last two week of life with me.
It took us a few years to find our way of communicating on that first morning after a trip.
This was just one of the many.....
Well I think Mr forty said it and I know you are up to it Pups.
See you. .Sq
I 've tried to get mrs Sq to do some writing but she's too busy. So I'll share it from my side. Being married for more than 22 years (to the very same girl) qualifies me at least a little bit.
When I started in the busines of being away from home the company took my eagerness to fly a bit too serious. They send me away from home for trips of 15 or twenty days to the tropics with a bunch of young good looking girls, usually ending with a night stretch. So when I finally came home I looked well tanned. I had been in or around a swimming pool for hours, had drunk a proper part of a liquor store and relaxed moost of the time I was away. Still after a, usually long, nightflight I was not in the best mood to listen to all the details of the last two weeks.
On the other hand there was Mrs Sq, worked five days a week and run a household with a slowly increasing number of kids (up to three), no time for swimming, beering or enjoyable trips to the usual tourist attractions of the world. She looked forward to the moment that she could share her last two week of life with me.
It took us a few years to find our way of communicating on that first morning after a trip.
This was just one of the many.....
Well I think Mr forty said it and I know you are up to it Pups.
See you. .Sq
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Once again many thanks for your comments.
I am wondering now if the moderators and or the management of this good webite will be considering the idea of an area for us partners.
I am wondering now if the moderators and or the management of this good webite will be considering the idea of an area for us partners.
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Count me in for a vote in favor of a partner's forum. I'm currently about a year away from looking to enter the job market, and my b/f has a lot of concerns that I try to address, but having not "been there", there's a lot of questions I can't answer for him. It's tough sometimes trying to address the decisions we have to make without all the information. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="wink.gif" /> Personally, I'd like to hear from anyone regarding their first year or two with a company -training classes and probationary hire period, time away from home, requirements for living near your base, etc... .. .Excellent topic <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="biggrin.gif" />
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Excellent posting!. .. .I have to admit that my partner flies, sometimes short haul and often long haul. What I find difficult to understand is that they seem to live in a fantasy world. When they have to work, the world around them must stop and work around them. When I go to work I have to juggle 100 different things! Its a difficult one I know, I have benifiited from him working for an airline but I have to be honest i miss him when he is away.. .. .Its hard work, but when he comes home I am supposed to forget everything I have been doing and take notice of him, which I genuinely do. I suppose what I am trying to say is that this business of working away from home plays havoc with us. I have a friend at work who has the same struggle, I mean I get made to feel guilty that he is spending 7 days on a tropical island with hundreds of pounds of pounds to spend, I may get a phone call if I am lucky and then when I say I want to go on holiday, he huffs and puffs!!!. .. .Arrrggghhhh! At the end of the day I love him and when he is back, its good, I suppose I have to juggle my life a bit better!
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What a fascinating post, with some really sound comments. I am very envious of the partners many of you have. . .. .I am the flying half of my partnership. I followed my partner to the US when he moved for a job - seemed like a good idea at the time! It took a couple of months to realise that without a green card I am unemployable, and, as someone pointed out, taking planes away from a pilot is equivalent to taking air away, so I am not a very happy bunny. . .I am in one of the best places in the world for planes and planes lovers, but all I want to do is fly for a living and play with my own plane when not flying for a living (is that too much to ask?). Facing up to no flying, as I am used to it, until a green card appears, has been, and still is, proving to be very tough. Trying to make my partner (who is very fulfilled and challenged and enjoying his job) understand this is even tougher <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="frown.gif" /> . . .. .I could, of course, chuck it all in and go back to the UK. Thats very tempting sometimes, but I want to give living here my best shot. Its great in the summer time - planes, planes, planes and more planes <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="smile.gif" /> But the winter is something else altogether..... great if you are into freezing your piles whilst ice fishing........ .. .Having had my wee say, two points I'd like to make are, as Mrs Flypuppy is being wonderfully understanding about, taking the planes away from the pilot's life is nothing short of torture, so best avoided; and, if you are going to start a forum, don't forget it should be for both sides of the partnership, not all pilots/'aviation bores' are men.. .. .Good luck with your husband's career move and everything that that is proving to involve, Mrs Flypuppy.. . . . <small>[ 05 March 2002, 18:37: Message edited by: fernytickles ]</small>
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Mrs. Niteflyer, I couldn't have said it better myself, especially the part about altitude sickness! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="rolleyes.gif" /> . .. .Mrs. Flypuppy, once you get used to this lifestyle, you'll never want to go back. It's like your still dating for the most part, when he's gone you can wear torn t-shirts and (comfy old lady undies) but when he comes home...well, you get the picture? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="wink.gif" /> . .. .If you have young children, those are the hardest years, after that it gets only easier.
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fernytickle, sympaties on your predicament, it's not an easy one!. .. .The point you referred to: </font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial, Helvetica">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial, Helvetica">as someone pointed out, taking planes away from a pilot is equivalent to taking air away, so I am not a very happy bunny. </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial, Helvetica">was actually made slightly different, as it referred to all people working on the aircraft. . .I know what I'm talking about here, because the point you referr to was made by my husband on page one.. .And I'm no pilot but a flight attendant. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="biggrin.gif" /> . .. .Must admit that it sometimes irks me how pilots often forget that they are in fact not the only ones on an aircraft with a great love for all things "aviating".