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I don't want to start a whole new thread, but as long as we're on the subject...can anyone recommend a Dubai based, Canadian divorce-law specific laywer. pm would be great. Thanks.
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You might want to start with Helene Mathieu. She's from Montreal and has had a practice here over ten years.
But I'll give you a heads-up - jurisdiction becomes the issue and for many reasons it's less complicated (especially if there's kids) to choose your home province instead of the UAE but that means a lawyer wouldn't be able to represent you very effectively from here.
Still...for advice or perhaps a connection in Canada that can help you, try Helene Mathieu Legal Consultants. Same building as the Consulate.
best of luck
But I'll give you a heads-up - jurisdiction becomes the issue and for many reasons it's less complicated (especially if there's kids) to choose your home province instead of the UAE but that means a lawyer wouldn't be able to represent you very effectively from here.
Still...for advice or perhaps a connection in Canada that can help you, try Helene Mathieu Legal Consultants. Same building as the Consulate.
best of luck
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Re: Personal issues
Hi Get Busy,
I want to write and wish you good luck in the sad and terrible situation that you find yourself. Unfortunately as of tonight I find myself in the same sad situation. My wife wants a divorce now but unlike your situation she is already back home with the kids for over a year now. The in's and outs of the situation are complicated but it has clearly not been helped by lack of leave, the distance between us and the excessive work patterns we are all doing here in EK.
After fifteen years of marriage I feel deeply saddened although I guess I would be kidding myself if I thought that this situation would never happen.
I called sick for my flight as lack of sleep and stress are taking their toll and I just would not have felt safe operating, although clearly as pilots we may see getting airborne as escape so it was tempting to continue.
I will try and go down the avenues that have been suggested on here as an interim measure before the worse stuff begins.
Anyway I wish you well and hope both our paths lead to a better place in time.
I want to write and wish you good luck in the sad and terrible situation that you find yourself. Unfortunately as of tonight I find myself in the same sad situation. My wife wants a divorce now but unlike your situation she is already back home with the kids for over a year now. The in's and outs of the situation are complicated but it has clearly not been helped by lack of leave, the distance between us and the excessive work patterns we are all doing here in EK.
After fifteen years of marriage I feel deeply saddened although I guess I would be kidding myself if I thought that this situation would never happen.
I called sick for my flight as lack of sleep and stress are taking their toll and I just would not have felt safe operating, although clearly as pilots we may see getting airborne as escape so it was tempting to continue.
I will try and go down the avenues that have been suggested on here as an interim measure before the worse stuff begins.
Anyway I wish you well and hope both our paths lead to a better place in time.
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An aging master grew tired of his apprentice’s complaints. One morning, he sent him to get some salt. When the apprentice returned, the master told him to mix a handful of salt in a glass of water and then drink it.
“How does it taste?” the master asked.
“Bitter,” said the apprentice.
The master chuckled and then asked the young man to take the same handful of salt and put it in the lake. The two walked in silence to the nearby lake and once the apprentice swirled his handful of salt in the water, the old man said, “Now drink from the lake.”
As the water dripped down the young man’s chin, the master asked, “How does it taste?”
“Fresh,” remarked the apprentice.
“Do you taste the salt?” asked the master.
“No,” said the young man. At this the master sat beside this serious young man, and explained softly,
“The pain of life is pure salt; no more, no less. The amount of pain in life remains exactly the same. However, the amount of bitterness we taste depends on the container we put the pain in. So when you are in pain, the only thing you can do is to enlarge your sense of things. Stop being a glass. Become a lake.”
“How does it taste?” the master asked.
“Bitter,” said the apprentice.
The master chuckled and then asked the young man to take the same handful of salt and put it in the lake. The two walked in silence to the nearby lake and once the apprentice swirled his handful of salt in the water, the old man said, “Now drink from the lake.”
As the water dripped down the young man’s chin, the master asked, “How does it taste?”
“Fresh,” remarked the apprentice.
“Do you taste the salt?” asked the master.
“No,” said the young man. At this the master sat beside this serious young man, and explained softly,
“The pain of life is pure salt; no more, no less. The amount of pain in life remains exactly the same. However, the amount of bitterness we taste depends on the container we put the pain in. So when you are in pain, the only thing you can do is to enlarge your sense of things. Stop being a glass. Become a lake.”
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A few years back HR stuck their noses into a friend's upgrade and delayed him six months because they knew his wife had split earlier on. They decided he wasn't ready. C***s.
Careful what you tell them at work, they need to know only the absolute minimum. They love to dominate you including at home.
Careful what you tell them at work, they need to know only the absolute minimum. They love to dominate you including at home.
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Fight for your children
If you're still on the thread... fight for the sake of your children's future...until you can't fight anymore... Always keep it in the back of your mind - once upon a time you were friends...
I have it from a reliable source - EK experiences over 65% divorce rate among pilots...
My aviation brother... This job and lifestyle takes a toll on us as well as our families. Rostering does their part for "the Company" - clearly not us. Take back control of your life before this issue gets out of control...
I've had 3 families. I fought for my last one - still have them. I'd still fight for them - even when - the most significant negative life event (as current psychologists refer to it) - adultery - happens to you OR because of you.
Personally, EK Flight Management are real people too - I take my hat off to them - I kept Fleet up-to-date (weekly)- I was OFF for 3 months. Shrink was shocked when I told him I had enough of the psycho-babel and either I was going back to work at EK or I was moving out of Dubai. That time of my life was a living-hell... and after living nearly 60 years on this planet - I've seen a lot...
If the worst thing happens and you both finally decide to throw-in the towel and go your separate ways - for what ever reasons... Be gentle... Be kind but firm... Divorce here is not so bad - pretty straight forward. But most important sort out what/how/why for the children... I grew up - multiple divorces and raised myself in spite of becoming an "afterthought."
Remember aviation is a choice for what may be 40 years if you're lucky... Your children are for a lifetime.
I have it from a reliable source - EK experiences over 65% divorce rate among pilots...
My aviation brother... This job and lifestyle takes a toll on us as well as our families. Rostering does their part for "the Company" - clearly not us. Take back control of your life before this issue gets out of control...
I've had 3 families. I fought for my last one - still have them. I'd still fight for them - even when - the most significant negative life event (as current psychologists refer to it) - adultery - happens to you OR because of you.
Personally, EK Flight Management are real people too - I take my hat off to them - I kept Fleet up-to-date (weekly)- I was OFF for 3 months. Shrink was shocked when I told him I had enough of the psycho-babel and either I was going back to work at EK or I was moving out of Dubai. That time of my life was a living-hell... and after living nearly 60 years on this planet - I've seen a lot...
If the worst thing happens and you both finally decide to throw-in the towel and go your separate ways - for what ever reasons... Be gentle... Be kind but firm... Divorce here is not so bad - pretty straight forward. But most important sort out what/how/why for the children... I grew up - multiple divorces and raised myself in spite of becoming an "afterthought."
Remember aviation is a choice for what may be 40 years if you're lucky... Your children are for a lifetime.
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Sorry Get Busy
GetBusy you can PM me if you need an ear to listen to and we can exchange numbers.
My wife left me after being together for 9 years, just 3 months ago. Never saw it coming, had no clue. I still have nightmares about it. The company, family, friends were all supportive.
I feel for you and if you just want to talk let me know.
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My wife left me after being together for 9 years, just 3 months ago. Never saw it coming, had no clue. I still have nightmares about it. The company, family, friends were all supportive.
I feel for you and if you just want to talk let me know.
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I have it from a reliable source - EK experiences over 65% divorce rate among pilots...
