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Old 29th Dec 2010, 17:20
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Child with a Streak of Cruelty

Most of my posts are humour/sarcasm, but this is not.

I observed a distant nephew of about six get into the face of another child at a big dinner, strike him, then strut away, obviously proud of himself. When confronted by a parent, he immediately teared up and whimpered for sympathy. The parents are absolute model parents. His siblings are normal.

It scares me that this child really seems to enjoy this behavior and I am afraid for what he might become. It's one extreme to another in a millisecond. He has been like this for years. I am not a parent, BTW.

Is there something wrong? What is it? Thank you.
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Old 29th Dec 2010, 17:26
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Hardly an aviation matter, methinks, but I suspect you have little experience of kiddiwinks. I have two sons and two grandchildren, who are now decent people but were not averse to the sort of behaviour you mention. However, in our cases, sore ears resulted!!
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Old 29th Dec 2010, 17:37
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They were lucky it was only sore ears....
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Old 29th Dec 2010, 17:47
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No I wouldn't worry too much about it, some day the kid will do that and the kid he hits will knock him across the room.
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Indeed a cuff along the lug at that age is 100% more effective than 100 hours community service ten years layer.
'Spare the rod and spoil the child', there is a few thousand years of experience and wisdom in those few words, but that counts for naught in this era of the fluffist.
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Old 29th Dec 2010, 17:59
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Probably nothing to worry about....however, should this child start mutilating small animals, pulling the wings off flies etc., then is the time to be concerned!
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Old 29th Dec 2010, 18:02
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If you feel you have to whack little horrors like him, it's best kept under wraps.
There are plenty of straw men and women ready and willing to offer their 'expert' guidance.
Better still obtain a set of 'Guidelines' there must be a 6 yard skip full of them kicking around.

Then belt him.
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Old 29th Dec 2010, 18:18
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However, in our cases, sore ears resulted
They were lucky it was only sore ears
In my case, as a child, it was a part of the body which is an anagram of 'ears' that felt the pain!
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I was trying to figure out how you got "rear" out of "ears" and couldn't so I was going to suggest that you were talking out your arse......

....and then.....





never mind
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In my case, as a child, it was a part of the body which is an anagram of 'ears' that felt the pain!
you got it...
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My littlie of similar age would be forced to apologise in front of everybody no matter how bad he felt and would get a clout as well.

This Lad is a bully pure and simple, he will remain so until he gets stopped if ever, crying and seeking sympathy when found out is not a shock as that is what bullys do.
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Old 29th Dec 2010, 19:54
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This Lad is a bully pure and simple, he will remain so until he gets stopped if ever, crying and seeking sympathy when found out is not a shock as that is what bullys do.
A sad fact of life is that most bullies have to have the crap beaten out of them by someone near their age before they stop being a bully. Unfortunately that does not always happen in time.
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And what the hell is wrong about pulling the wings off flies.


That's where I learned the early principals of lift and drag and the need for a rudder.
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When I was a wee lad I used to burn ants with a magnifying glass and put rolled-up butterflies down the barrel of my slug gun and blow them to bits.

Today I am very nice to kittens and I help old ladies to carry their shopping.

No-one has ever beaten me up.

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Old 29th Dec 2010, 21:48
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Hmmm, I would not be to sure about that Mr W,on your next outing I suspect you will spend your next life with three pairs of legs pushing a ball of dung around some dusty African Plain for your behavior
Karma,no getting away from that.
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Old 29th Dec 2010, 22:55
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Originally Posted by smo-kin-hole View Post
Most of my posts are humour/sarcasm, but this is not.

I observed a distant nephew of about six get into the face of another child at a big dinner, strike him, then strut away, obviously proud of himself. When confronted by a parent, he immediately teared up and whimpered for sympathy. The parents are absolute model parents. His siblings are normal.

It scares me that this child really seems to enjoy this behavior and I am afraid for what he might become. It's one extreme to another in a millisecond. He has been like this for years. I am not a parent, BTW.

Is there something wrong? What is it? Thank you.
On the one hand, we don't know what, if anything, the other child said or did to warrant the provocation? Did they have words before sitting down to dinner? Was there a simmering argument that came to a head just as you happened to be watching?

Or, (assuming there is nothing medically wrong with this child) if there was no previous provocation, and based purely on what you have described i.e. deliberate aggressive/bullying behaviour then I'd suggest that this is the problem: that other people think "The parents are absolute model parents"

Sorry but if parents of a 6 year old are not on top of his behaviour, fail to see through bullying or lies and fail to administer corrective action, whatever that might need to be, then they are 'what is wrong' with this child.

Unfortunately your comment that "He has been like this for years" speaks volumes and suggests this is a little sh!t who has been allowed to get away with anything and everything to date. I fear this does not bode well for his future unless he receives some swift correction / re-direction from his parents or learns a painful lesson when he gets the crap kicked out of him by a very pissed off contemporary.
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Old 29th Dec 2010, 23:50
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There is a very good book called 'Superdeal' about negotiating. The author stated that children drive the hardest bargains with their parents as they have almost nothing to lose and everything to gain.

In the OPs stated case, the bully has evidently realised that by turning on the waterworks immediately after committing an atrocity, the parents, although wanting to punish him, are rendered powerless by his blubbering and the bully has got away with his attack.

Trying to reason with a young child is a waste of time, and a smack and/or deprivation of something meaningful to the child is the only way that this behaviour will be prevented in future. It is vital that the parents remain quiet and controlled, and in the example given, take the child away from the other guests before punishment so the bully cannot play to and manipulate the audience.

There are far too many children around now, who have at least one parent who cannot bear to see the child told off or otherwise punished, either by the parent's partner or anyone else. The child learns to manipulate this and turns into an uncontrollable nuisance.
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Old 30th Dec 2010, 00:16
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I realize that this is a serious matter, never the less I'm reminded of the condom commercial with the out of control child in the grocery store. God that was funny.

Been looking for it, can't find it as if yet.
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Here ya go Con...

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Old 30th Dec 2010, 01:26
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Have to go along with the 'emerging bully boy' diagnosis and whilst a whack from the parents wouldn't go amiss, as a correction for unacceptable behaviour, it will probably take a good hiding from one of his victims to stop, (not cure), the bullying syndrome. I suspect that even when he is able to reason that physical bullying is not profitable there will always remain a bullying element within that may emerge in other ways, verbally, mean behaviour etc.

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