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Old 11th Oct 2010, 23:26
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Do Women Really Treat Men Like Crap - shared maternity leave

This season is shaping up to be the "autumn of my discontent."

Not my discontent - but many of the guys I work or socialize with. For some reason, I have been on the receiving end of their angst. I don't know why - maybe because I tend to be more of a listener than a talker?

What I am hearing is this:

- no matter what I do, I can't please her. She's become my "bitter half"
- I feel like I'm just taken for granted. Go to work, help pay the bills, buy her things - for what?
- I don't think I really matter to her anymore, especially after the children came
- she treats me like a prisoner and she's the warden. I'm tired of the control
- I don't know what my role is anymore. She wants to be treated like an equal - then she calls me a "wimp" because I told her to take the car in for service

I did listen - and somewhat guiltily because I know I am also into "control." I have also seen these traits in women I know - heck, we used to get together once a week and put down the men we are supposed to love over the lunch hour.

Are we really that bad? The sad thing is that most women don't even realize this.....until it's too late.
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Old 11th Oct 2010, 23:36
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By God my wife doesn't. I'm the boss in my home. Just for example, the other day we had a discussion on who was the better dancer on "Dance with the Stars", well,she thought she won, but by God I showed her.

The next morning after she left to go shopping I decided I would show her just who was the boss.

So I stormed into the utility closet, grabbed the vacuum cleaner (Hoover) and vacuumed all the carpets, then I mopped and waxed all the tile and wooden floors, did the laundry, sorted the sheets and towels and placed them, just like she wants them in the linen closets. Then I cleaned both ovens, the top of the range, cleared out the refrigerator in the kitchen and both refrigerators in the garage.

Then when she came home from shopping, I had her favorite diner ready, veal Oscar.

So, by God I showed her who was boss!
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Old 11th Oct 2010, 23:38
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I love it when you're so masterful Con.

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Old 12th Oct 2010, 00:00
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There is a quote by Oscar Wilde which I always thought trivial until after I separated from my wife when I then realised how insightful it actually is:

"It is a woman's misfortune that she grows to be like her mother. It is a man's that he does not."
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Old 12th Oct 2010, 00:12
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A piece of advice given to me by my dear Dad:

Before you decide to get married, take a good look at her Mother because that's what you'll be waking up next to for the rest of your life.
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Old 12th Oct 2010, 00:15
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I endorse that, niknak!
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Old 12th Oct 2010, 00:18
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Some very true words being spoken here. All of the above has been my experience in what has been an extremely short period of matrimony. She didn't want a partner so much as someone to do what he was told, when he was told, and to have no opinion on the matter in the meantime. Can't live like that. Of course, I'm no prize in many ways, so don't think of myself as blameless in this and it's not as black and white as what I've written here might make it seem. But, still can't live like that.

Would love to have made a witty reply ala our man Con-pilot, but not quite found my sense of humor about the whole thing yet. Soon, though. Soon.
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Old 12th Oct 2010, 00:20
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niknak,

I wish my dad said that...
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Old 12th Oct 2010, 00:43
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They can and will.....but only if you let em!

At my house the wife puts the toilet seat up when she is finished using it...

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Old 12th Oct 2010, 01:04
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Shortly before we were to be married, and in front of a group of friends, I handed my wife to be a pair of my trousers/pants and told her to put them on.


"They're far too big!" She protested.

"And don't you forget it." I said, in an assertive kind of way.




Bo-lox!
Some wimp - that had just scrubbed the floor on his hands and knees - made that up...and only said it when he was down the pub with his mates.
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Old 12th Oct 2010, 01:19
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Far more than any other cause, we teach others how to treat us. Most people get what they are looking for; as such, complaints are a ruse, to excuse, or to blame.

"Do I really do this?" Yes, one does. The answer is to determine what one wants, not what one wants in another. The match is unassailable, when honesty and not faux explanations are at play.

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My woman, in control?

That's what she thinks because I like to let her think she is.

And how, you may ask, do I achieve this daunting feat? Easy, I just do everything exactly the way she likes it as soon as she wants it done just so she thinks she's in charge....hey, wait a minute...
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Old 12th Oct 2010, 02:02
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con-pilot, if you really did that, you are a gem. If not - still a gem for that sense of humour.

I am reading your replies with interest....and wrestling with my "control" issues.
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Old 12th Oct 2010, 02:10
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A wise old man with whome I used to work, used to say, with tongue firmly in cheek.

"There are only two races on this planet and no way will they ever get on with each other"
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Old 12th Oct 2010, 02:34
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In the spirit of the thread, let's dust this one off for old times sake.

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As I see it, the only difference between C-P and myself is he does it voluntarily and I get told to do it. And his cuisine is probably better than mine.

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Old 12th Oct 2010, 03:07
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- she treats me like a prisoner and she's the warden.
Coo...you normally have to pay extra for that.




A wise old man with whome I used to work, used to say, with tongue firmly in cheek.

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Old 12th Oct 2010, 03:26
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What I am hearing is this:

- no matter what I do, I can't please her. She's become my "bitter half"
- I feel like I'm just taken for granted. Go to work, help pay the bills, buy her things - for what?
- I don't think I really matter to her anymore, especially after the children came
- she treats me like a prisoner and she's the warden. I'm tired of the control
- I don't know what my role is anymore. She wants to be treated like an equal - then she calls me a "wimp" because I told her to take the car in for service


Must be a British thing.
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Old 12th Oct 2010, 03:57
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Shortly before we were to be married, and in front of a group of friends, I handed my wife to be a pair of my trousers/pants and told her to put them on.


"They're far too big!" She protested.
Loose pants -- pardon me -- rivets: well, in most cases, she'll fill out those pants in another 20 years - literally. lol! Oh well. As my grandpappy used to say,
"A big barn and plump wife never did any man harm."

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Old 12th Oct 2010, 04:20
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Actually, I don't remember where I saw it the first time, but I did see it here once before and it seemed to fit.
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