I’m not trying to be a stick in the mud but you’re experiencing just a tiny sliver of what is a draconian immigration system in the USA.
Easy to Monday morning quarter back but you should have looked into this before you got married.
Would probably have been better to get her over on a K1 ( fiancée) visa then get married in your home state.
This may still be an option since you may not be ‘legally’ married under US law.
Stop looking for advice on an aviation website and get an attorney.