No, it is the way you have done it that makes the difference - pontificating from your ivory tower how others should and shouldn't do their job (in your opinion) as if you have absolute say is what is insulting.
Perhaps this is how you advocate instructing and debriefing in your world - your students must have absolutely loved you for that.
I can't see how trying to explain how instruction can be done in demanding roles is condemnation - perhaps your prejudices against mil pilots just go too deep - no skin off my nose, I still have a day job where my instructional skills are highly valued (I'm sure against all your beliefs to the contrary).
Perhaps you just haven't got a wide enough experience of instructional roles to appreciate my points.
We could go on all night I suppose, but pantomime season is over I think. Personally I am quite happy to be judged by my peers on my contribution to this thread and I would imagine you likewise, so let us allow the masses to judge us!