So far folk seem to have decided that in order to avoid a pilot flopping his R44 into a field we must eliminate young instructors - even though we have no idea who this chap's instructor(s) was/were. And that he is an arrogant fool who wouldn't have crashed if only he had been forced to have some mentoring.
No one has said anything of the sort - or implied it, you are imagining it.
Any mention of the military system has been to highlight how we are protected from ourselves (for the most part) and prevented from doing the enemy's job for him by being constantly educated and reminded of the pitfalls and mistakes made by others.
We know we are fortunate to have had that progression, tuition, development and protection - is it arrogant to suggest something similar might benefit those starting out in the private flying game?
Being a member of a club is a great way to reap the benefits of others experience - a chat over a beer with an old sweat might just save an embarrassing incident, accident, write-off or even loss of life. The days of sitting around the crewroom chewing the fat, learning from the stories of others - peers as well as the older/more experienced were many of the most valuable for many of us in the military - sadly that sort of environment doesn't exist widely in GA.
You are rather polarised in your position - you seem to believe that if we try to improve anything, it automatically equates to loss of freedom or massive increase in cost which will deny aviation to the masses; this is more sad than realistic since you would rather do nothing and let people kill themselves and others for the want of a little education.
It's not just the 'flopping' of an R44 into a field - that is just the latest in a litany of very preventable accidents (many with fatalities) caused simply by the lack of airmanship.