Thank you gents for some interesting responses, they raised some points that I will confess I hadn't thought of.
I will agree that to force one way or the other is wrong and should a player wear or not ought to be up to their own conscience
I might actually not wear one this year, it doesn't detract from the 364 days of the year I don't wear one and the circa 200 days I think about mates no longer present or the quiet words of thanks every time I pass a war memorial
But that never stops me from buying one, maybe this year I should put a bottle of the ''fiddich on the bar so all who pass can have a wee dram for remembering