Whirls/pulse1.
I think you're both right.
Maybe the solution is as you say she returns/declines the awards..the aviation community then leave her alone and she can carry on with her after dinner speaking career, albeit restricted to non-aviation savy audiences...
I have to say (even as an ex- "crab") that given the allegations I personally find the pictures of her wearing a Lt Cdrs uniform in bad taste and even bordering on the offensive...is it just me?