Part of the problem with discussing this is that because flight training is such a personal business, one persons experience may differ wildly from another at the same school. I went to two FTOs during my training, one was a 'sausage-machine' and you had to fend for yourself. The other was a small FTO with a small team who took the time to overcome the problems I experienced.
Make no mistake for most pilots commercial training is hard work, harder flying than you have ever experienced.
Best thing to do is to go and visit, talk to the other students if you can, see if the instructors are the sort you can get on with, look at the aircraft, see if you would be happy there.
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