It doesn't sound to me as though you need an intensive course. These are designed for people who haven't done any flying, to get them a PPL quickly. If I've understood correctly, you've done 45 hours flying and all your ground exams, but you're being messed around. It sounds as though you need a school which is prepared to accommodate your schedule, and an instructor you can fly with regularly that you get on with. That's slightly different. I'd suggest you visit a few flying schools, talk to instructors, talk to students, and get a feel for each place. Tell them what you want to do, and see how they react. You're not asking for anything that complicated.