A lot of the problem here is the way that "flare" is understood.
It is not a single action, it shoud be a process, starting when you cross the fence, of adding back pressure to progressively reduce the rate of decent. By the time the wheels are a foot or so above the runway you should be gradually sinking and you will soon hear a series of squeaks as each tyre bites.
Think of it as similar to stopping your car at a red light, you should be braking smoothly from a distance so that you reach the line at a crawl, not dropping anchor at the last moment.