Phone Wind the difference is in being able to show you can do it better, rather than just telling them you can
This is the thing I hate most about military culture, it is all about point-scoring. If you are an instructor or examiner in civvy world you don't have to say you are the best pilot in the company. You don't have to prove you are the best pilot in the company. What you have to is have a good instructional technique (that doesn't function on having a "superior" attitude), know the syllabus, the required standard and relevant technical knowledge. And a bit of humility helps!
In the military so much time is spent getting the callipers out to measure the size of each other's balls that I wonder there is any time for flying!