You should be capable of flying in nasty weather. Whether or not you do so is up to you, but you need to get the confidence to enable you to do so. The first thing to do is read your aircraft's operating handbook. And by that I mean the real thing published by the manufacturer for your specific type and version, not something that an amateur at the aero club has knocked up. It will give you an approach speed range or the method for working one out.
I'm going to assume you are not in a mountainous area. Things can be slightly different here.
The basic guts of approach speeds is that your airspeed indicator will give you a clue as to your stall speed (at max. weight, forward CofG) with maximum landing flaps; it's the bottom of the white arc. To that add one third. Many light aircraft stall in landing configuratuon at about 45 knots. This would imply an increment 15 knots giving an approach speed of 60 knits. To that, add half the gusts. So 15 knots gusting 25 knots means adding 5 knots. And we are talking about headwind here, not crosswind. But if your POH says different, do that!
Now grab an instructor and go and fly with them on a windy day. Have them demo the approach speed, power and attitude. Now try yourself. Do not add more speed. Faster is not safer, just as slower is not safer. Also remember that the numbers from the book are at maximum weight with most forward CofG. So if you fly at book speeds, you still might be too fast. Some suggest reducing your approach increment by 10% for every 20% of weight you are below your max. landing weight.
At higher levels, 1,000' down to 500' you will have sufficient height to control your speed. You do not need extra speed. Control your speed with pitch, power and attitude. You will have to work during approaches in gusty weather and providing you make timely corrections you will not fall out if the sky. As you approach 50 feet above the ground, bleed your speed off and land normally on the mains. Throw away any approach you are not happy with, go around and try again.
The skill will come, but it does need practice.
Best of luck,
PM
PS. I used to live round the corner from Gants Hill in Blenheim Avenue. Small world.
Last edited by Piltdown Man; 4th Feb 2016 at 17:38.
Reason: Bloody autocorrect. Pah!