An alternative way of thinking of the stick is "releasing is trimming". Every time you release sidestick pressure back to center, think of it the same as the gradual releasing of grip pressure on the yoke of a conventional airplane as you trim it out. The effect is obvious in pitch, and if you think of roll as working similarly it feels the same. By using the same rhythm you would use trimming pressures off the yoke of a Boeing, you will naturally operate the side stick smoothly.
Misinterpretation of the "bumping" technique many describe can lead indeed to uncomfortable flying when someone does a bunch of "bumping" back and forth on departure or approach. All you need to do to become a believer is to ride in the aft galley FA jump seat while someone hand flies the aircraft in this manner.
As Bob Buck said, "little pressures, nothing more".