I don't think that becoming a flying instructor is necessary at all. P1 - you obviously (from the tone of your post) don't want to instruct, in which case I would suggest that you don't. If you land yourself a job instructing which you don't want, you won't enjoy it, and more to the point you will be doing your students a dis-service by lacking any desire to teach them properly.
How about aerial photography? Glider towing? Dropping parachutes? Tourist flights? Banner towing? You may find you have to go abroad to do some of these - would that fit in to your personal circumstances? They all count just as much as instructing.
There is nothing worse, IMHO, than an instructor who doesn't want to instruct, and only has the job to build hours. (Nothing against the many instructors who are hour-building but enjoy the instructing while they're doing it - it just doesn't sound like you'd fit into this category.)
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