Pilots are in charge. ATC offers an option. Airmanship decides if the pilot should accept it or stick with Plan A. It is not an order. B757 AA in Cali is a classic example. If they're stayed with a relaxed plan A in stead of a rushed last minute Plan B there would have been a happier outcome.
I read so many stories of pilots getting hot & hi, even making a G/A, because they accepted an ATC short cut to finals. Daft.
Let's make sure PIC is really in command of the safe operation of the ac/. ATC manages it as a team member; PIC decides if it is acceptable under all criteria.