You're being pretty optimistic about using a plane to commute to work. You don't say exactly where you aware but the Bay Area seems more likely than Alturas. You will need IFR for an early arrival/departure 100 days a year. And there will be days (like yesterday) where it's just out of the question.
If you really want to be able to count on using a plane, you need known ice (FIKI). That is available on the Cirrus and a couple of other equally expensive planes. Even then ice can kill you.
5 gph is REALLY low - you can get this on an LSA but it won't have a lot of the other things you want.
I went through a similar decision process as you 15 years ago, and ended up with a TR182 - which is a wonderful aircraft and a great IFR plane. BUT... it burns 14-15 gph, and it still isn't FIKI, which means there are days when you can't fly it, even IFR.
Send me a PM if you want to chat further (I fly out of Palo Alto).