but you need to be born lucky.....
hullo OP and I empathise with the nature of your post. You do refer to the things that pilots will learn from being privately scared; and as a result of my own training and experience process many years ago I would agree with that......if you survive to tell the tale. I suggest that to survive this training path you must be born lucky.
I suggest that because I am aware of bad dangerous situations I myself came through during that phase of my flying life. But also I have read accident reports where pilots have committed these same mistakes with fatal result.