or even lucky enough to have our flying training paid for.
Before you get too caught up in your own victim culture...
I too lived in a council house, went to a secondary modern school (With an unfounded poor reputation), although I had both parents!
I had my pilot training paid for, but there wasn't much lucky about it. I took a risk and joined the Army as a private soldier, with the hope but no guarantee that I would pass aircrew selection, I did, then the hope that I would pass the following courses to actually make it on to a pilots course
Aircrewman Observer Course
Junior Cadre Course
Senior Cadre Course
None of which were 'just attend and you'll get through'
Finally, pilot selection and the Army Pilot Course.
A failure of any one of these (perhaps other than the Observer course, although it would not have been a good sign)! Would have meant that all that time in the Army was wasted (with regard to my initial aim of joining).
But you go ahead and continue deluding yourself if it makes you feel better!!!
PS, consider this a bite