I will give it a rest now, yes TC.
I logged on hear a few years back and was pretty unimpressed, these forums are sometimes disrespectful, but I suppose make people think.
If something similar to this ever happens to me, I would simply wish that you don't give up if you have that niggling doubt, and don't just let something be brushed under the carpet. I have never said that I could have done any better than this crew did, and that's what is so scary to me. RIP.