I chose to say that being called an idiot by LO is abusive
I object strongly. I am still at "sarcasm" level, and have to exhaust dramatic irony, metaphor, bathos, puns, parody, litotes and satire, before turning it a couple more stops to "abusive", at which point you will surely know about it.
Also, I'm still waiting for MSOCS/The Lory* to come up with some specifics rather than just "you can't know about this because it's all secret".
* Indeed, she had quite a long argument with the Lory, who at last turned sulky, and would only say, `I am older than you, and must know better'; and this Alice would not allow without knowing how old it was, and, as the Lory positively refused to tell its age, there was no more to be said.