Think requirements
Lots of info so far for you.
But consider where you ultimately want to end up. Airlines? Then you will need twin IFR time. Hard to get, and expensive getting there. But not impossible, any old hours will do really, however, some are worth more than others. Look at the ATPL requirements, have your instructors bothered much with your night flying component of the course? If I were to do it all again, I would certainly have done more than 10 bloody hours of night flying before I graduated and it would have been money well spent.
GA? Plenty of options. Instructor rating will get those first few hours up. Meat bombing and glider towing are good for that as well, and they often need part timers. The big bonus there is that there is always movement.
Set small goals as sub sets of a larger goal.
If you can't relocate (I know how that one goes, I have kids as well), then it will all depend on who you know.
Good luck.