I have never been any form of instructor, perhaps for the best, but I disagree with those on here who want everything to be fluffy in military training.
It is impossible to simulate the pressures of real military ops in training, but sometimes the extra pressure of aggressive instructors is very valuable.
If shouting makes you lose the ability to fly, then military is not the place for you.
Military flying training is not about getting everyone through. If you are not chopping a percentage, you are not maintaining standards.
Yes it can go too far. I've had a discussion airborne with Jack F.... during my RN grading where I explained to him that the next time he punched me I was going to hospitalise him. (We got on well after that!)
The idea that the training environment should be lovely is barking.
Do we train the SAS by chatting nicely to them?
If you want elite, it has to be pressured.
I suspect that many on here whingeing only just scraped through and are still mildly traumatised my the experienced.