Geoffrers I think you explained the MIL vs CIVVY argument very. I
I would add that all military pilots are subject to aircrew selection procedures, and in UK, during training, are effectively 5 hours from the chop throughout their training (review).
The selection and the ease at which a military pilot can get chop means the end product, those that survive, have proven ability and skills.
In civilian life the only obstacle to qualifications is either you are a total spastic or run out of money. The two systems are poles apart.
I hate civvies, I could not believe it when I found out my parents were civvies!