LEM,
To answer your question, it is standard for ONE pilot to fly the aircraft, while ONE pilot monitors. This aeroplane has been designed to be flown by one pilot or the other - period. Dual inputs CAN be made, but usually cause more problems than they cure. We've all done firm landings in our time, but never have been near the limit. As has been said already - don't confuse a "good" landing with a soft one that's in the wrong place!
Give the Airbus wind-ups a rest, it's getting boring now.
