Good advice BV, and good to hear from the horses mouth what the RAF is now like and it is exactly as i expected. When I was in Kinloss was the only real "flying club" station, i suspect there were others, but i know of more than one that arrived and left 4 ranks better off many moons later.
To the OP, these are questions you should have asked, regardless of your partner before you decided to join. The fact you have not leads me to believe you may be in for something of a shock when you are warned for an OOA and then it is pulled forward because the person you are taking over from is ill, that is one example, there are many more.