Todger, my dear chap, you have a serious problem here. I am afraid that if you are serious about your chosen career the Royal Air Force comes first. Tell her to go back to go back to mummy for the next 20 yrs.
Anyway, you still have many barriers to pass before you are operational. If you have a nagging wife in the background you will not make it. You are so lucky and considered suitable to make it onto the bottom rung, don't blow it.
Try to introduce your wife to wives of operational pilots. Let them tell her the life she is facing and then make a joint decision.
Good luck
