The first Mrs W killed my flying career - not entirely her fault but due to insecurity because she did not see her dad until she was 5 because he was away in the war (founder member of the RAF Regt). So every time I got scheduled for detachment she (connived at by her Mother, rot her socks,) produced a sick note from her doctor saying she could not be left. My very serious advice is to get the future straight with your wife, or choose the RAF or her - seriously.