I wonder if my comment also raised your concerns Middleground,
I raised my concerns that the thread was going the way some of the other had, just full of conjecture.
It also concerned me in the fact that Trumpet-Trousers was an early thread poster and his close friends and colleagues were involved
( Who incidentally has behaved impeccably during what must be a trying time for him and he must have been biting his tongue reading some of the posts, he has shown himself to be a true gentleman)
I realise it is the web and all that, but would you stand within earshot of someone who had lost close friends and discuss their deaths? I don't think so. And that is why I tried to lightly mention it wasn't the place or time, right or wrong I felt it was the thing to do and they were done with the best intention.