Luckily in The Netherlands such lawsuits don't have any chance of success. That's one thing our government does right compared with all the other nonsense regulations in our little country. Dutch law is mostly "common sense", you won't get charged more than 50 euro's if they catch you downloading a movie for example, instead of 5 million dollars...
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Technically, downloading is only made illegal very recently because of European pressure, but the government already said they won't do anything to stop it, and they won't actively search for violators, so downloading is still OK here
Just like most drugs: not legal, but OK to own and use if you want. They even have government approved harddrugs testing facilities at big parties, just so you can be sure it's doesn't contain rat poison.
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In your example: if you get on a flight and need to do a go around and she gets traumatized because of that, that's her problem, not yours. You didn't force her to get on the aircraft and you piloted the aircraft as good as you could. If you think a go around was necessary then you did everything OK. End of story.